Oct. 1, 2021

337: The Superpower of Being a Good Person -with Adam Crigler

337: The Superpower of Being a Good Person -with  Adam Crigler

In a world full of sadness and despair, how can doing good and being good to others be your superpower?


In a world full of sadness and despair, how can doing good and being good to others be your superpower?

 

Adam Crigler joins the program to outline how being a good person helps answer a lot of the longing questions in life.

 

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Brian  
All right and with that joining me on The Brian Nichols Show you know him from the kriegler show Adam kriegler welcome back to the program. Hello Hello Great to be here Adam thank you so much for joining the program and thank you for bringing some positivity into the world we were talking before we started recording here and it's something that we need in this era right now just seems there's so much negative news and everywhere I look people aren't depressed they're talking about the future like there is no future Yeah, I think we got to start talking about the things that matter I asked you how you were doing he said hanging out my family enjoying that and let's dig into that right you know, being able to hang out with your family enjoy life, but I want people to know who you are first and why that means something to you. So Adam, introduce yourself to The Brian Nichols Show audience if you would

Adam Crigler  
Well hello thanks for having me on the show first and foremost, I am just another average human being trying to make their way in life in fact tonight on my show I'm going to be talking about celebrity status versus putting people on a pedestal kind of thing and how we have our our priorities all backwards like people are idolizing these people on the internet instead of realizing that you know they have friends in real life family in real life the people around them that are very important you know it's like so me being here in my with my family is is super important for me. But who am I I am I host a show called the regular show on YouTube where I talk about current events political stuff, a lot of space things I love space I like talking about the future of humanity whether that be energy, psychology, anything that goes along those lines I also love ancient human anything rather like the pyramids But yeah, I mean I feel I can go go off on it. So

Brian  
So what really quick the pyramids are sure they from the aliens?

Unknown Speaker  
No, I believe that the humans built them. Okay, I think I think humans built them. It wasn't built by slaves, it was actually an honor to work on them. From my research of what I've found, I think that we focus more on vibrations and wavelengths and energy and whereas now we focus on getting energy from burning fossil fuels, which is just completely different. And I think if we went back to that magnetism when we live on a on a giant magnet, the Earth is a magnet and there's natural currents of energy that even Tesla was obsessed with the pyramids, he went and traveled to Egypt in his younger life in his 20s and studied the pyramids and, and studied the ancient lore of the ancient Egyptians because he wanted to understand what they did. And a lot of that those studies came out later on in his different inventions that he created in his life. So really cool stuff funny

Brian  
how it like you see a reoccurring theme. So for my show, we focus a lot on applying the world of politics, from a sales and marketing lens. And one of the things we talk about with what makes a good salesperson and that's not your use car salesmen at slaps the top of the guard says, oh, man, this guy here No, it's it's Yeah, it's genuinely, you have to be curious about the person you're talking to, to know what makes them tick. And what I found fascinating when you're going through, you're talking about you as you're talking about Tesla, they have to have this genuine curiosity you have to be interested to the point that you want to go above and beyond to learn not just you know what it is, but why why does it exist? Why does it work? And that's why I was curious, you know, just your your thought there because I do see right now I apply that question to the world today. There's a growing sentiment. And I'm sure you feel it. It's it's either a, you have the growing sentiment of we need more top down control to keep us safe. And then this other mentality of dude, just let me live, you know, don't hurt people don't take their stuff. Freedom. Let me be a free. Was it? My body? My choice, right? Wasn't that the argument? And we're seeing this dichotomy split. What do you think is causing that?

Unknown Speaker  
Oh, my,

Brian  
I know, it's the big one.

Unknown Speaker  
What do I think is causing that? Well, I feel like, man, how do I even start this? You know, there's this whole top down, the government needs to control everything, which is it's going under the assumption that people are idiots that people can't handle life on their own. And the problem with that is, it's kind of true in some sense, like we have lost our ability to grow our own food, build our own shelters, like learn how to be self sufficient. Most humans nowadays in America, I'm more special. Typically, I'm American, I live here, you know, it's like we have, we don't have to worry about those things. But that was the fundamental, like life of all human beings for 99% of human existence on this planet was worrying about making sure you had food stored for the wintertime, making sure that you have, you know, shelter. And that was it. If you have that you're doing good, you're doing well in life and, you know, then you were able to prosper and have kids and stuff like we don't have that anymore. But then, you know, the, the whole libertarian side of it, it's like, don't, don't tell me what to do you do you, I'm gonna do me. I love that. I love that vibe. Because I feel that and I, I am an optimist. I like to think that most people want the best in others, some of them are quite misguided on how they think they should go about that. And the government has essentially, from what I've seen, is convincing a lot of people that they need the government to be able to achieve that. This utopia that is an impossibility, it doesn't exist, you can't have a place where everyone agrees on every single thing. And it's they won't accept anything less, which is nuts. So they're clearly not libertarians in that sense. I feel like I've handled some of the question, but reiterate the question for me again, like

Brian  
snow, it's okay. Because I it was a loaded question is a lot they're doing pack is what caused the split between where we are right now with the security mindset and the freedom mindset. But there's one thing really quick before we go back to that I was I was writing this down, because you mentioned that people sometimes can't handle things. And that's true. And part of the reason is, we've seen this this application from the personal responsibility or looking to outside of government, some type of entity that can help hold you accountable. So I think instantly, that the exactly religion has crumbled, right? We've seen organized religion across the board has crumbled, especially in the Christian sense. In America. It's not it's a shell of its former self Honor, I would say, you know, you need to see focus on personal fitness on health, like taking care of yourself. You've seen a who's the number one demographic of people being at risk, it's if you're morbidly obese, or you're overweight, or you're older, so if you're overweight or obese, what are we Why are we glorifying that? If right, what's putting you higher at risk?

Unknown Speaker  
body positivity? Brian, body's you know, it's interesting though, I brought up the ancient Egyptians, and in the lore of what happened with ancient Egyptians, they believed in the weight of the heart when you died, Osiris would weigh your heart and if it was heavy because you were guilty because you did you sinned essentially you would go to the underworld you weren't you wouldn't be able to go to the afterlife and, and survive, but there was these priests in an ancient Egypt that started selling statues and you know, oh, by this, this expensive golden statue, and it will give you peace of heart. So now you can buy yourself into the afterlife. Now you don't have to actually worry about being a good human being. So you mentioned the fall of religion. And it's it's very, it's eerily similar to what we're seeing Nowadays, people don't care about being good people. They don't care about being virtuous, I mean, to everyone, right? I mean, I like to be who I am 100% of the time, I don't care who's in front of me, right? It doesn't matter. What gender skin color, anything, you're cool with me, I'm going to be cool with you, I'm going to help you out. Even if I don't even know you. Right? Oh, I'll go out of my way to help anyone. That's just, I mean, that's being a good person, like people should want to aspire to do that. But, you know, society has taught us to worry about ourselves, move out of your parents house, get your own job, live on your own, you can be whatever you want. You're a star. You're the one it's like we got here by community we got here by helping humans and teaching each other stuff. So we're like, with the fall of religion, we're also losing this sense of community because there is a huge amount of community that resides in religion in churches, I actually grew up going to church, my grandparents took me to church when I was younger, and there was always friends that would come over and we'd have you know, big gatherings of people. It's like, it's not like they were talking about God the entire time. They were just being together and helping each other build decks and you know, whatever it was, you know, just, I don't know we're losing a lot of that. And it's almost like we're finding out we could just buy our way or not not even worrying about the app. Life because everyone just says like, whatever life is now, which I actually agree with, we should be focused on the now I think that's a secret in life that people don't realize how important that is. But you see what I'm saying? how similar it is. Oh, yeah. Well,

Brian  
and what's your legacy? to that? I think that's the other question, right? aren't asking what what what am I going to be known for? I always start off whenever I have a new hire, I lead a sales team in the greater telecom cybersecurity world. And whenever we sit down, we'll be going through goals. And it's a morbid question. But I'll say, when the time comes, that they're writing your obituary, they'll say, john doe, he was known for what? And what, what do you want that line to be? And I think for a lot of people, it's overwhelming, because they're like, I don't know. But if you start to really aim, aim big, and have that lofty goal and start to to reverse engineer, figure out how you can obtain that goal, suddenly you see a pathway, and it becomes much more easy. I talked to my sales team, you know, if you were to start out every single month and say, I have to hit my quota, and you look that number, and it's insurmountable. Well, okay, what do you do it, you eat an elephant, one bite at a time. So start small, and work your way up. And suddenly you hit your court. I mean, we just had a, you know, one of my other sales guys here at my company, he just pulled in, like an 11k deal, just out of, you know, just out of the back pocket. And that, you know, pushed us over our entire company goal, just just like that. And it's stuff like that, that I think we need to be encouraging. encourage more greatness, encourage the good things, instead of tearing those people down when you see the success. And yeah, let me ask you this. I mean, Adam, is is that the secret is just constantly surrounding yourself with good people, successful people who are having those higher aspirational goals?

Unknown Speaker  
Yeah. But something that you said maybe think about, like our legacy, right? What is what are we gonna leave behind, but also, what is our purpose, as we move forward in life, we are getting more and more automated. We have like those things, food, we have warehouses of robots, 3d printer, like robots that are planting, feeding, food that will grow for us picking the food and giving it to us. So like, everything's being automated, we don't have to worry about food. We don't have to worry about shelter. I mean, they could 3d print shelter, but it's like all these things. What is going to become our purpose in life in 2030 years, when everything is automated, everything, I mean everything, and it's only a matter of time, because AI is exponentially getting stronger. The whole robotics, I don't know, if you, you know, Boston Dynamics, like their robots are doing dances and flips. And it's like, it's only a matter of time before they have a humanoid robot that can walk around and do the things that we do. And people and VR is incredible. It's like, you know, there's going to be a switch, where suddenly, we aren't even needed to take care of the base needs of humans. So what becomes our purpose? And we're already having issues with lack of purpose nowadays, because that purpose, like he said, like, okay, hitting quota, that becomes someone's purpose. I mean, it's temporary, it's for the job that they're working on. But you know, and it's not necessarily a personal thing, it's for the business that they work for. But you know, what, what is a purpose for us, you know, as human beings and we really need to figure something, that's why I like space so much, because I feel like we could, if we unlock how to travel space, you can go in every single direction from Earth and explore and they're there it opens up a whole new avenue for purpose of I mean, I was I grew up on Star Trek as well I love Star Trek. And I feel like I'm actually witnessing the birth of space exploration in the in the age of humanity of humans, and it's amazing.

Brian  
Yeah, well, let's talk about that lack of purpose for a second because you said that and a light bulb went off in my head so I I'm from upstate New York originally and I'm very very rural. I mean, I you know, four and a half five hours more North Okay, New York City like car up there. Oh, yeah, Canadian border, and we've seen in the past 1015 years. Number one, just severe severe increase in obesity. I think it's a third of the people now in upstate New York are considered either obese or morbidly or morbidly obese. That's number one. Number two, alcohol alcoholism has been skyrocketing through the roof. And then the third part has been drug overdoses, specifically the opioid epidemic. And

Unknown Speaker  
I'm thinking now it's not just upstate New York. I

Brian  
know it makes sense now I'm thinking why was it upstate New York in my context, and a lot of people who are getting hurt or those old it would have been your your blue collar industrial worker or your farmers and it's, it's just gone in those roles are no more. And it's really sad because what we saw was this old mentality of you were, as you were saying, you were your job, you if you work in the factory, you were part of the machinery essentially, that's what your job was. And that was the value you brought to the table. But now that that value can be literally not only replaced overnight, but then exponentially increase in terms of what else it can do in the future, just by the thing doing the thing that it does that is AI and learning and getting better. I mean, we use a voice transcription tool here for the show to transcribe the episodes and it learns my voice every single time better and better and better and picks up on phrases I use. So then you might see you know, the very beginning of some of the episodes back in the very early days, some of the words will be off here and there but as it gets better those phrases it will start to figure it out. Oh, that's what he's saying. And it's fascinating because I could have hired somebody to do that. And that was somebody's job to do that. But now that's just completely taken over. Yeah, and what does that person do you have to figure out what can I do my feature or benefit? How can I put that into a package that creates value and I think it is that value creation that breeds that success we are talking about and then helps marry that sense of purpose and because people have not been able to attach themselves to that sense of value they themselves feel they don't bring any value and it leads to this depression we see the increase in suicides the increase in alcoholism, I mean, I've lost way too many good friends who are under the age of 32 suicide in the past five years and a lot of them are either a because of drug related incidents so either you know car accidents from drunk driving, overdoses or suicide. And it's it's tragic, because a lot of the situations could have been avoided. Had we saw and I really don't want to point fingers but I think we really have to look at what's happened. You see an education system that doesn't foster like true learning and curiosity it tells you how to take a test and if you it tells you everything right and if you go to school, and that's what you know, but you don't know how to apply it to critical thinking in real life. Suddenly it's like okay, where's the next test to take there is no next test to take right yes, what are you doing for adding value to the world right then they just kind of get stuck doing whatever job it was. And I'm sad because I think that there there needs to be more opportunity for those people so I mean, Adam what what would you say to those people who they feel that they don't have that sense of value? I mean, what should they be looking to do to make a change in their lives?

Unknown Speaker  
Helping others Hmm, I think that that is it I mean, it's we bring it back to community you know, we have gotten here by helping each other right so what what can we do it's like you can find some sort of something I mean, stop focusing on you for a little bit I mean, I if you have man like really, I gotta just say like, I don't have the answers, right? This is I'm not there's no answer for anything. You know, it's it's not so easy and it's not going to work for everybody to just go out and start helping others but it feels good. When you go out and help someone else. You get a feeling of I don't know positive energy like you help someone you're putting out positive energy into the universe. And that is a start right? You said you you you can't just eat an elephant with in one sitting You have to eat What's one bite at a time. I've never heard that phrase, but it makes sense. Like, start right do something in life is overwhelming. Life is a pain. And it's tough to really make your dent in the world and some people never do and that is a truth that we need to learn from a young age. We're not taught that we're taught that we can do anything. That's not true. We can do we can be who we want to be but we have to work hard. It is not an easy thing to just like become insert whatever you want to do, you know you got to work for it. And people nowadays are spoiled like we don't have to work that hard to get certain things some people are really lucky but one thing is true. We We aren't at this this quote that keeps popping in my head it's popped in my head a couple of times. Those who worry about micro aggressions have never had to deal with macro dangerous. We we have taken care of the macro dangers in life. Now what is it now that what is a macro danger, okay, Hurricane maybe if it hits your town, a tornado I don't know a plane crash, or I don't even want to say war because head, I don't want to jinx us. But my goodness, we finally got out of the war that probably shouldn't have been in the first place. But that's neither here nor there. What is what is the macro dangers that we deal with? We don't, we don't deal with them, people don't understand how good we have it. And that, that now that that's the new baseline, now they're getting entitled, now they're being offended by stupid things. That's why this whole where we are with like the PC police in the push called SJW movement, it's like, they are needing a purpose. Because they don't have it. We talked about purpose. So they're finding purpose in this new rage, right? At angers addictive, right? They they, man, I'm like, my, my mind has always been working on the problems in society, it's kind of like, because I have my daily show, I'm always I'm, my eyes are glued to the news, I'm reading what the internet's angry about what, you know, news is poppin. And these people just are so angry. But then I look at them and what they're doing in their lives, and they're not focused on themselves to focus on others. And they're focused on being a victim. And that spoiled attitude that we, since we got rid of all the macro dangers has led us here. And then now those people are having kids, and that those kids are even more entitled, and more like, you know, the world isn't helping me. And then you even mentioned it, you know, education, education systems, teaching them to hold their hand through life, like let me hold your hand through the All right, good luck with life. They're like, what is this? This is an easy, this is your fault, because it's not easy. No, it's it life is not easy, you got to work hard for life, life is tough. If you don't work for it, you're gonna be left behind, and they're getting left behind. So I'll have end of rant.

Brian  
Phenomenal, because I think we're all sitting there. We all know, we have that one friend, the eternal student, they're always in college, and they never leave to get a real job. And then they're like, well, what value are you creating? That's like, I have a real job i'm doing i'm creating things I don't know. But like, I think part of in this, you as you're going through, you mentioned this, it made me think of the fact that some people I think they don't have a sense of that purpose. And they look to that collective anger as that purpose. Like exactly, if that collective anger, if I can channel into that, and I'm part of this hive, then that is my purpose. Yeah, and that's scary. That's a scary Yes, it is, um, yeah, board. But I would say I think one one thing I was thinking, and I see this in the sales world, you can even apply this to real life is you know, when somebody says, Brian, I want to get better at sales, what should I do? And I say, you know, you mentioned you gotta put in the hard work, but I would always find Who do you want to be, you know, is somebody at the company like and men go out and have them be your mentor, like, beg them say, I will literally I'll wash your car I'll you know, pick your kids up from school, whenever you want, just teach me because the best thing to do is to shadow the successful people in life. I mean, that's what I did. When I went in, I started working at my day job is I found the best sales guy. And I realized that what he was doing was successful as he was actually going out knocking on doors and meeting people face to face. And he was building those relationships that would transcend a cold call, he would now have the human connection. And I was like, I should do that. And guess what I did it launched my career. And that was something that I took to the bank in terms of always be learning and looking for those who have been successful. So let's let's as we go to the tail end of the conversation, Adam, when you're giving you know when you're giving advice to people out there, they say Adam, how do I be the best person I can be which I think that's going to be the episode today is how to be a good person like that. You know, obviously we've gone through you have to put in the hard work. Yeah, find somebody that you want to, to you know, emulate and just be a good person do good and help other people. But when push comes to shove, how does somebody know that they've been a good person? is there is there something that they can they can go check off a box or is it more of that feeling that you were talking about that you did you did good?

Unknown Speaker  
How does one know? Is that tough? Yeah, because it's a perception issue. Like we see these people that are whether or not you agree with them, I personally I do not this push culture or PC police SJW 's there, they're fighting against anything that doesn't adhere to their ideology. And the problem lies is they think they're doing good. They truly believe that if you don't believe everything they do, you're evil. And they're doing doing great work for society, because it's fixing What's wrong, you know, and I don't agree, and there will never be a world where everyone agrees. Right? So what is doing good, right, what is being a good person that, that the answer is different for every single person? So it's it's not an answer, that's very easily, or a question that's easily answered. Because, you know, there's billions of us billions of human beings on this planet and everyone's different, everyone's experiences are drastically different, some may be the same. But for the most part, we're all very different people that have different needs and different virtues and different everything, right? So the best you can do is, do your best. Right? Someone asked me if, on my show months ago, they said, if you had one bit of advice to give the world, what would it be? And I said, Don't let yourself stay a victim. Right? being victims exists, real exists, like victims, had things happen, where you're it's not in your control. But whether or not you remain the victim is the most important decision you can make for yourself, do not remain the victim, fight for what you deserve. And if you are accepting something, you deserve it. So don't accept anything less than what you need for your life. And, and don't be a victim. You know, it's a choice. Yes, it can happen like you can, someone can hit you in your car. And you know, you were a victim of a car accident, right? Just as a random example. But you're not going to sit there and talk about it for a couple months. Like, man, I can't believe that I got hit by a car two months ago. It's like, see, it's it's kind of silly. Now scale that up to many different these people are now convinced that because of their gender, they're victims. And it's like, okay, there might be people up a couple people out there that are bullies. But I grew up in the era of sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. And I don't care what other people think about me, because I'm going to do me, but these people are monetizing victimhood. And it is, it's ruining us. We are, we're, we're growing soft as a human society. And it's, it's sad. It's sad.

Brian  
That's why we have to do what we're doing. And that is having this conversation and showing people the path forward. And I think, to the point we raised at the very beginning of the episode, there are a lot of people who are looking, what what do I do? What can I do? Well, here is the template how to be a good person. And yeah, you got to do it caffeinated. So make sure you head over to kriegler coffee, we'll include that link there in the show notes. Yeah, of course, Adam, people obviously are going to really enjoy this conversation today. And I want make sure that I can point them towards you to continue this conversation. So for the audio listeners, they can go ahead and follow you.

Unknown Speaker  
It's the regular show on YouTube, you can also find me on all different podcast platforms. But I just want to add one thing. I truly believe that most people are good are good people that want good for others. And it feels like there's a screaming minority that is demanding for purpose, and they're finding it in the wrong area. So just remember, you're not alone. And most people are good, and I feel like we will prevail. The people that are good out there that want the best for everyone. I think if we just remain optimistic and keep fighting for us, everyone, right? We're all in this together. We have one planet we living on. We got no other place to go. So thank you. Yeah, but follow me on the regular show on YouTube. I do a daily show Monday through Friday. 630 eastern time I go for about an hour I usually talk about three or four different segments. And yeah, it's it's fun. I have an amazing chat. Best chat on all of YouTube. No comparisons.

Brian  
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Musician, Skater, Model, turned Youtuber. Talking about the everyday happenings of life. Focused on politics, space, life, being human.